Oh my beautiful baby girl.
When I found out I was pregnant with you, I was excited beyond measure.
I imagined who you would be. What you would look like. Who you would grow into.
I didn’t know if you were a boy or girl, but I assumed you would be a boy. I don’t know why.
So the day we found out that you WERE a girl brought with it a mixture of both excitement and apprehension.
Firstly, I was so excited about what lay ahead. I could picture our future together. The things we would do. The things we could share. One day you will have your own family, your own babies. And I will be there for you, not so much by your side, but to help you whenever and however you need me. Yes, I could see it all the second I knew you would be my sweet baby girl.
But I was nervous.
Because I knew that life may be harder for you than it would be if you were a boy. That more will be expected of you. More will be taken from you. More pressure will be put on you. It’s sad, but it’s true.
I feel apprehension that you will be placed under that same exhausting level of pressure that women are today to be a “model” woman. To do it all. To be it all. To juggle it all. To know it all. It’s so damn exhausting, and I want more for you.
The emotional load is tremendous my darling. I can’t sugar coat that for you in any way. You will be expected to do so much that some days you feel like your brain is going to explode from the sheer weight of it all.
But, I have more hopes and more wishes for you my baby girl.
When you have grown up and are picking a partner in this life, please know that it honestly doesn’t matter to us whether that partner is a boy or a girl.
What DOES matter to us, is that you feel only love, joy and happiness when you are with them.
We hope you find someone who loves you with every inch of their being. Someone who respects you and sees you as a partner in this life. Someone who can be your friend, your support, your lover and your confidant. Someone who will take care of you as much as you take care of them. Someone who sees the value that you add into their life and who appreciates everything that you do. Someone who will never take you for granted. Because my darling, they will know how incredible a person you are, just like I do.
My angel girl. I can already see into your heart, into your soul. And you are the most beautiful, kind, caring, loving and hilarious divine being. You will move mountains with that overwhelming love and big heart of yours.
I wish so much for you as you grow up my darling baby girl. So much.
I wish for you to remain as kind and as thoughtful as you are today. This world could do with so much more kindness in it. If everyone was as kind and as considerate of everyone else around them, like you are, then what a joyous and nurturing world this would be. Everyone would be lifted up so high. And imagine what they (and you) could achieve feeling like that.
That thoughtful part of your nature will ensure that people will give themselves to you so completely in friendship and in love because you care so much about them in return. There is an element of power in kindness. Please don’t ever lose that.
Sometimes however to the blindest of eyes, kindness can be mistaken for weakness, but I want you to ensure that your kindness will actually be your greatest strength. Don’t let anyone ever walk all over you, and never try and tear anyone else down in return, because it is kindness that people need. It is what the world needs and it is what you need. Kindness and thoughtfulness doesn’t cost anything and I can assure you that when you give it out selflessly, it will be returned to you ten fold.
Oh my littlest love. I hope that you always know how loved you are. How precious, how wanted, how adored you are. I hope you always know how much joy you bring to those around you. With your sweet nature and your playful, fiery spirit you truly make this world a brighter place.
Use your time on this earth to help make this world, your portion of it a better place. Stand up for what you believe in. Do not stand idly by if you see others hurting around you. Give what you can, support who you can and love hard. I know you will.
My darling, I hope that you are strong, much stronger than I have ever been. I hope that you can just brush any hurtful words that will wrongly come your way off your skin. I hope you are secure enough within yourself to know that those words are a reflection of the speaker and what they do not like within themselves, rather than a reflection of you.
And I also hope that you are a knowledgable and accepting enough to admit whenever you are wrong. Because being wrong is not a bad thing. It gives you a chance to learn if only you are open to it. Please always be open to it. Because learning will only increase the value you add to this earth. There is so much to learn, and knowledge is power. You can be anything you want to be and go anywhere you want to if you have the knowledge and strive for more.
I hope that by the time you grow up that you don’t have to be scared of everything the way that I am. Of course I know that you will still need to be cautious as that is just the hard nature of the world that we live in, however I hope that you never have to live under that same sometimes crippling fear that I do. I hope that when there is something that you really want to do in your life that you will just do it. That you wont second guess yourself. That you wont get in your own way. Because you can and WILL be great my sweet baby girl. Don’t hold yourself back ever. You were born to shine.
And I hope more than anything else my darling child, that you will continue to laugh always. Look for the joy in the every day. Life is the greatest teacher and there really is a gift in everything, even the harshest lessons. You just have to choose to see it.
Live with hope. Live with happiness. Live with laughter. Live with love.
That is what I wish for you my love.
And I can’t wait to see your life unfold.
What wishes do you have for your children? Do you want them to be loving, kind, thoughtful? Leave me a comment below and tell me all about it xx